How to demand respect from family and friends, steps with examples!

Posted by Jackson Lim in Career, emotional on February 23rd, 2010

Below is a quick fix to demand more respect from your peers and family members, I’ve seen people use it and I took the time to write it down, so here goes:

1. Point fingers at a person or a group of people and ask them to SHUT UP!

Example: While reading this post, look at the people around you. Point at the nearest group with passion, open your eyes wide open and shout “SHUT UP, I AM TRYING TO READ HERE!”

2. Ask anyone a question that they can’t possibly know the answer, and say how stupid they are for not knowing the answer

Example: “Hey Bob, do you know that there are many different types of Ping Pong bat in China?”, after a long pause, you say “STUPID, you call yourself a sport person, go to Bed!”

3. When a group of people is discussing passionately about something, interrupt them to let them know you knew what they are talking about

Example: “Jackson and Ray, listen, no need to argue. I KNOW for sure that the chicken comes first before the egg, because I study about it long ago”

4. Kept on interrupting a person when they are talking

Example:

Jackson: “I think the best…”

Bob: “The best way to move forward in this project is to use the spiral methodology”

Jackson:”Right, the goal for this phase is…”

Bob:”To make sure that the module is stable and functional”

Jackson: “Right.”

5. Comment about the physical appearance of a person, and make sure they realize it

Example: “Jackson, you look so dark. Your skin color is so dark, you look like a Malay Boy, do YOU know you look like a Malay Boy?”

6. Look away when a person is talking to you, and ask them to look at something that has no relation to what they are talking about

Example: While a friend is talking passionately about career advancement, you look away and say ”Yes, I agree. Yes Yes. OH! Look at this dress, it will look good in jeans AND kaki!”

7. Disagree about everything, regardless of context to show that you are smarter then them

Example: The air has oxygen? Nonsense, even an ant knows that it wasn’t true! Don’t spread lies Jackson.

8. Agree with everything they say, and tell them you know the facts long ago

Example: Yeah I know the air has oxygen long ago, when I am still studying in kindergarten.

9. While a person is giving you instructions, don’t write it down the first time, write it down the second time when you asked them to repeat the steps

Example: After the person has guide you through on how to record the VCR, you say “WOW it is so easy, please repeat your steps again, I want to write it down this time”

10. Give people advice regardless of whether they want your advice or not

Example: “Do you know that you can’t demand for respect, you must earn it”

If you use all the 10 steps listed above to gain respect, you should pat yourself on the back and say “I am such a loser, and I am sad”.

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30 Day trial on Effective Time Management: Game Plan

Posted by Jackson Lim in PE Experiment, Time Management on February 19th, 2010

Now once I’ve moved up to project management, I want to take personal development a little more seriously because if you can’t manage yourself accordingly, how can an organization expect you to manage other people properly? But I got to be honest here, although I occasionally read books about personal effectiveness, I took the half arse approach in implementing the concepts in my life because of my lame excuses like time constrain, work constrain and broken toenails. I want to take the personal effectiveness to the next level, and experience real change in my life.

Since I am able to taste the results from my previous endeavour, I want to see what else I am able to achieve if I follow the process more rigidly this time around. One aspect of my life that I want to see change immediately is my ability to manage time, I can’t seem to strike a balance between my personal life and work.  Currently I am able to set a day or two for my girlfriend Irene, and a day for my friends. While the remaining days is split between work, family and chores. But I know it doesn’t work because I am “burned out” occasionally, my personal projects didn’t get done, and I neglected some of my friends because of my schedule. Sorry Ray!

Managing time is not as straight forward as making up a to-do list, although that method works for some people, I’ve tried it for 30 days and it doesn’t work for me. So I develop a more elaborate process that cater specifically for my needs. The first step is to track where I actually spent my time, sometimes I am so indulge in what I do, I tend to forget what I have scheduled. Time just pass by unconsciously for me and before I realize it, the day is over. Since I spent a huge chunk of my time in front of the computer (Projects, Entertainment, Social Networking), the best way to track time is to use an automated software like Grindstone because it is not bias, and it is accurate. It can produce easy to read reports that I can refer to later.

Then,  I write down all ongoing projects in one master list, which is split between personal projects and work related projects and plot them throughout the week. By the way Personal projects consist of maintaining relationships with my friends and family, personal development studies, Slipperylips CMS development and etcetera. I don’t try to totally fill my weeks with stuff to do to allow surprises or unexpected circumstances, I plot one whole week for work related project and another whole week for my own personal projects. Base on my research, most of the highly successful managers organize their time that way, they claimed that alternating weeks between personal and work related projects help them focus and has increased their productivity tremendously.

I plan to stick with this regime for 30 days and see what impact it has on my personal effectiveness. Throughout this 30 days I will post my findings and lesson learned, I hope my investment in time pays off.

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Moving up to Project Management

Posted by Jackson Lim in Career on February 18th, 2010

I achieved my long term goals in just under 3 years, which is significantly faster then I ever expected. I thought it will happen when I am 28 or 30, but I guess you can’t really put a time frame in the Law of Attraction. I’ve dream of this moment ever since I step out of college, not so much about the pay or the prestige of being a manager (although it is a definite plus), but a stepping stone for my ultimate dream of managing my own multinational company in the future. I am even dating my future secretary now to make sure : )

The mindset of a project manager in an organization is exactly like a small business owner, you have staff to manage and products to role out,  you have customers to satisfy and board of directors to report to. To me it is an excellent learning ground for me to learn the business inside out, and to really understand and get the feel of what I’ve got myself in to. It is not easy to be good at what I do, because of my lack of knowledge in project management and my lack of experience. But I will work my pants off to make sure I learn as much as I can from my seniors, and from books and notes.

Each and everyday I wake up fresh and ready for a new day, I guess that is the best sign that I am indeed moving in the right direction.

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